diff --git a/lib/bundler/multilock.rb b/lib/bundler/multilock.rb
index b5cfa59..1b5ce8e 100644
--- a/lib/bundler/multilock.rb
+++ b/lib/bundler/multilock.rb
@@ -202,7 +202,6 @@ def after_install_all(install: true)
               Bundler.ui.info("Syncing to #{relative_lockfile}...") if attempts == 1
               synced_any = true
 
-              specs = lockfile_name.exist? ? cache.specs(lockfile_name) : {}
               parent_lockfile_name = lockfile_definition[:parent]
               parent_root = parent_lockfile_name.dirname
               parent_specs = cache.specs(parent_lockfile_name)
@@ -218,7 +217,7 @@ def after_install_all(install: true)
                 end
 
               # add a source for the current gem
-              gem_spec = parent_specs[[File.basename(Bundler.root), "ruby"]]
+              gem_spec = parent_specs.dig(File.basename(Bundler.root), "ruby")
 
               if gem_spec
                 adjusted_parent_lockfile_contents += <<~TEXT
@@ -253,27 +252,13 @@ def after_install_all(install: true)
                                                                         spec,
                                                                         parent_spec)
 
-                  # look through all reverse dependencies; if any of them say it
-                  # has to come from self, due to conflicts, then this gem has
-                  # to come from self as well
-                  [cache.reverse_dependencies(lockfile_name),
-                   cache.reverse_dependencies(parent_lockfile_name)].each do |reverse_dependencies|
-                    break if precedence == :self
-
-                    reverse_dependencies[spec.name].each do |dep_name|
-                      precedence = check_precedence.call(specs[dep_name], parent_specs[dep_name])
-                      break if precedence == :self
-                    end
-                  end
-
                   spec_precedences[spec.name] = precedence || :parent
                 end
 
                 # replace any duplicate specs with what's in the parent lockfile
                 lockfile.specs.map! do |spec|
-                  parent_spec = parent_specs[[spec.name, spec.platform]]
+                  parent_spec = cache.find_matching_spec(parent_specs, spec)
                   next spec unless parent_spec
-
                   next spec if check_precedence.call(spec, parent_spec) == :self
 
                   dependency_changes ||= spec != parent_spec
diff --git a/lib/bundler/multilock/cache.rb b/lib/bundler/multilock/cache.rb
index cf8665b..0d3f856 100644
--- a/lib/bundler/multilock/cache.rb
+++ b/lib/bundler/multilock/cache.rb
@@ -57,11 +57,27 @@ def parser(lockfile_name)
       end
 
       def specs(lockfile_name)
-        @specs[lockfile_name] ||= parser(lockfile_name).specs.to_h do |spec|
-          [[spec.name, spec.platform], spec]
+        @specs[lockfile_name] ||= begin
+          specs = {}
+          parser(lockfile_name).specs.each do |spec|
+            (specs[spec.name] ||= {})[spec.platform] = spec
+          end
+          specs
         end
       end
 
+      # sometimes a gem changes platforms with a new version, such as from aarch64-linux
+      # to aarch64-linux-gnu. we need to still sync it
+      def find_matching_spec(specs, spec)
+        specs = self.specs(specs) unless specs.is_a?(Hash)
+        platform_specs = specs[spec.name]
+        return unless platform_specs
+
+        parent_spec = platform_specs[spec.platform]
+        parent_spec ||= platform_specs.find { |platform, _| platform =~ spec.platform }&.last
+        parent_spec || platform_specs.find { |platform, _| platform == "ruby" }&.last
+      end
+
       # @param lockfile_name [Pathname]
       # @return [Hash<String, Set<String>>] hash of gem name to set of gem names that depend on it
       def reverse_dependencies(lockfile_name)
diff --git a/lib/bundler/multilock/check.rb b/lib/bundler/multilock/check.rb
index 2bc7b86..0180556 100644
--- a/lib/bundler/multilock/check.rb
+++ b/lib/bundler/multilock/check.rb
@@ -120,7 +120,7 @@ def deep_check(lockfile_definition)
 
           # check for conflicting requirements (and build list of pins, in the same loop)
           parser.specs.each do |spec|
-            parent_spec = @cache.specs(parent_lockfile_name)[[spec.name, spec.platform]]
+            parent_spec = @cache.find_matching_spec(parent_lockfile_name, spec)
 
             if lockfile_definition[:enforce_pinned_additional_dependencies]
               # look through what this spec depends on, and keep track of all pinned requirements
diff --git a/spec/bundler/multilock_spec.rb b/spec/bundler/multilock_spec.rb
index 1d104b1..e60bfe4 100644
--- a/spec/bundler/multilock_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/bundler/multilock_spec.rb
@@ -863,6 +863,35 @@
     end
   end
 
+  it "syncs gems whose platforms changed slightly" do
+    if RUBY_VERSION < "3.0"
+      skip "The test case that triggers this requires Ruby 3.0+; " \
+           "just rely on this test running on other ruby versions"
+    end
+
+    with_gemfile(<<~RUBY) do
+      gem "sqlite3", "~> 1.7"
+
+      lockfile("all") {}
+    RUBY
+      invoke_bundler("install")
+
+      write_gemfile(<<~RUBY)
+        gem "sqlite3"
+
+        lockfile("all") {}
+      RUBY
+      invoke_bundler("install")
+
+      expect(invoke_bundler("info sqlite3")).to include("1.7.3")
+      expect(invoke_bundler("info sqlite3", env: { "BUNDLE_LOCKFILE" => "all" })).to include("1.7.3")
+
+      invoke_bundler("update sqlite3")
+      expect(invoke_bundler("info sqlite3")).not_to include("1.7.3")
+      expect(invoke_bundler("info sqlite3", env: { "BUNDLE_LOCKFILE" => "all" })).not_to include("1.7.3")
+    end
+  end
+
   it "syncs ruby version" do
     with_gemfile(<<~RUBY) do
       gem "concurrent-ruby", "1.2.2"