[VL] Support building arrow CPP and finding installed arrow libs from system

[PHILO-HE]

What changes were proposed in this pull request?

This is a part of work to let Gluten/Velox use installed arrow libraries instead of always
building from source, which is for simplifying Gluten/Velox build and saving CI time.

We also have a velox PR to let velox find and use the installed arrow libraries: facebookincubator/velox#9992.

How was this patch tested?

CI.

[github-actions]

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[jinchengchenghh]

Please also update the document, thanks!

[PHILO-HE]

Please also update the document, thanks!

@jinchengchenghh, I will do that. Thanks!

[jinchengchenghh]

And we don't need to add arrow patch here https://github.com/apache/incubator-gluten/blob/main/ep/build-velox/src/get_velox.sh#L249

[PHILO-HE]

And we don't need to add arrow patch here https://github.com/apache/incubator-gluten/blob/main/ep/build-velox/src/get_velox.sh#L249

@jinchengchenghh, you mean we don't need this patch here or don't need to use git to add it? The git add may be still useful for checking ep cache I guess.