fix spine can not show normally or crash

[bofeng-song]

Re: #
cocos/cocos-engine-external#444
https://github.com/cocos/3d-tasks/issues/17871
https://github.com/cocos/3d-tasks/issues/17870
https://github.com/cocos/3d-tasks/issues/17869

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[bofeng-song]

spineInstance's value will be set to vectorSpines.back(), and delete spineInstance operation will trigger the last element of the vector to destroy

[github-actions]

Interface Check Report

! WARNING this pull request has changed these public interfaces:

@@ -51732,8 +51732,9 @@
                 transform(x: number, y: number): void;
                 end(): void;
             }
             export class SkeletonSystem {
+                public static destroySpineInstance(instance: SkeletonInstance): void;
                 public static updateAnimation(deltaTime: number): void;
                 public static updateRenderData(): void;
                 public static getCount(): number;
             }
@@ -51770,9 +51771,8 @@
                 static createSpineSkeletonDataWithJson(jsonStr: string, atlasText: string): SkeletonData;
                 static createSpineSkeletonDataWithBinary(byteSize: number, atlasText: string): SkeletonData;
                 static registerSpineSkeletonDataWithUUID(data: SkeletonData, uuid: string);
                 static destroySpineSkeletonDataWithUUID(uuid: string);
-                static destroySpineInstance(instance: SkeletonInstance);
                 static getCurrentListenerID(): number;
                 static getCurrentEventType(): EventType;
                 static getCurrentTrackEntry(): TrackEntry;
                 static getCurrentEvent(): Event;