fix: Tighten use_memo dependency types

[jnumainville]

Fixes #355
Only allow tuple and list, and throw if neither.

[mofojed]

Make sure to update the examples in DEMO.md and examples/README.md as well. There's a few cases in there using sets.

[jnumainville]

Make sure to update the examples in DEMO.md and examples/README.md as well. There's a few cases in there using sets.

I did not see any

[mofojed]

Need to update DEMO.md and examples/README.md

One example:

    t = ui.use_memo(lambda: blink_to_append_only(blink_table), {blink_table})

There's a few from Colin's change: https://github.com/deephaven/deephaven-plugins/pull/291/files#diff-fb5877c1913d0ee5d0a6f0d1fa5f480d8b755dd04b95e3b74833ec0952a34d18

They're in there and need to be updated, I'd just search for { and verify it's not a set being passed into a memo or effect.

[jnumainville]

Ah, that's where the demo file was. I still didn't find any in the examples file.