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diff --git a/Gemfile b/Gemfile
@@ -4,7 +4,12 @@ gem "jekyll"
 gem "github-pages", group: :jekyll_plugins
 group :jekyll_plugins do
   gem "jekyll-feed", "~> 0.12"
+  # https://github.com/github/jekyll-commonmark-ghpages#installation
+  #gem 'jekyll-commonmark-ghpages'
 end
+# https://github.com/jekyll/jekyll/issues/8523#issuecomment-751409319
+gem "webrick", "~> 1.8"
+
 # Arch bug: https://www.adamsdesk.com/posts/jekyll-fix-cannot-load-such-file-json/
 gem "json"
 
@@ -21,6 +26,3 @@ gem "wdm", "~> 0.1.1", :platforms => [:mingw, :x64_mingw, :mswin]
 # Lock `http_parser.rb` gem to `v0.6.x` on JRuby builds since newer versions of the gem
 # do not have a Java counterpart.
 gem "http_parser.rb", "~> 0.6.0", :platforms => [:jruby]
-
-# https://github.com/jekyll/jekyll/issues/8523#issuecomment-751409319
-gem "webrick", "~> 1.8"
diff --git a/Gemfile.lock b/Gemfile.lock
@@ -251,7 +251,7 @@ GEM
     rb-fsevent (0.11.2)
     rb-inotify (0.11.1)
       ffi (~> 1.0)
-    rexml (3.3.0)
+    rexml (3.3.1)
       strscan
     rouge (3.30.0)
     rubyzip (2.3.2)
@@ -295,6 +295,7 @@ DEPENDENCIES
   github-pages
   http_parser.rb (~> 0.6.0)
   jekyll
+  jekyll-commonmark-ghpages
   jekyll-feed (~> 0.12)
   json
   tzinfo (>= 1, < 3)

diff --git a/_config.yml b/_config.yml
@@ -10,6 +10,19 @@ github_username: OpenSourceKyle
 
 permalink: /:categories/:year/:month/:day/:title:output_ext
 
+# https://github.com/github/jekyll-commonmark-ghpages#installation
+#markdown: CommonMarkGhPages
+#commonmark:
+#  options: ["UNSAFE", "SMART", "FOOTNOTES"]
+#  extensions: ["strikethrough", "autolink", "table", "tagfilter"]
+
+# For Collapsible Sections using details:
+# https://stackoverflow.com/a/39920717
+# https://kramdown.gettalong.org/parser/kramdown.html
+markdown: kramdown
+kramdown:
+  parse_block_html: true
+
 # https://docs.github.com/en/pages/setting-up-a-github-pages-site-with-jekyll/adding-a-theme-to-your-github-pages-site-using-jekyll#adding-a-theme
 #theme: jekyll-theme-dinky
 # https://github.com/pages-themes/dinky?tab=readme-ov-file#usage

diff --git a/_layouts/default.html b/_layouts/default.html
@@ -1,3 +1,4 @@
+<!doctype html>
 <html>
   <head>
     <meta charset="utf-8">

diff --git a/_pages/my-goals.md b/_pages/my-goals.md
@@ -0,0 +1,157 @@
+---
+---
+
+# Life Purpose: I exist to facilitate connections with others
+
+## A Vow of Poverty
+
+* accept no money for the info, knowledge, or insights
+* open-source and license for greatest exposure, sharing, and robustness for non-commercial usage
+* Lindy effect: make it last, where reasonable, for as much as possible
+* seek greatness and difficulty for its own sake as a virtue
+* help but delegate where appropriate; this saves oneself from irritation and provides opportunity to grow through instruction
+* for myself, I have decoupled the necessity to work to live; therefore, I have the opportunity to use my brain to accomplish and not waste it on menial tasks
+
+> "Seeds planted today, will grow to towering trees tomorrow, which will bear fruit much sweeter than we could ever imagine" -Simón Bolívar
+
+## Elevator Pitch
+
+This explains **what** I am doing in an interesting, open, and vulnerable way while not being negative, overly detailed, or qualifying...
+
+I am cultivating my creativity and expression through:
+
+- guitar
+- photography
+- Spanish
+- journaling
+
+I am experimenting with my:
+
+- appearance
+- style
+- piercings
+- tattoos
+- name
+
+Professionally, I bartend and automate computer testing. I have a couple of degrees. I have a goal of living in a Spanish-speaking country, and I can read, write, speak, and use my technology in Spanish. I am training gymnastics-lite with difficult body movements like handstands, muscle ups, front levers, and planches. 
+
+My interest include:
+
+- nature
+- beauty
+- self-improvement
+- music
+- fitness
+
+I am working to open-source my ideas and philosophy fully.
+
+---
+
+## Goals
+
+### Cultivate a healthy, confident, and attractive **mindset**
+
+Mindset is the most important level of growth for me to make. This mindset plays into the "vibe" that a lot of people (especially women) subconsciously intuit.
+
+Having a solid mindset will:
+
+- keep me stable through difficult times
+- help me make good decisions
+- bolster my attractiveness
+- allow me to be confident and unashamed of my actions
+
+#### Actions:
+
+##### Sleep
+
+My greatest struggle, but the most important for a solid brain, mood, and vibe:
+
+- Goal: sleep 7-8hrs/night
+- Chill time: 11pm ; stretching, deep breathing, and meditation before sleeping -- practice relaxation (parasympathetic) response when the least stressed
+- Bedtime: 0000-0730
+- Minimize: waking up in the middle of the night
+  - any middle of the night wakeups -- get out of bed and walk or read BUT do not continue laying in bed
+- Continue: using ear plugs, light-blocking sleep mask, and sound machine
+- No: screens (aside from eReader) an hour before bed and/or use blue-light blocking apps and glasses
+- Bed is only sleeping -- Pavlovian conditioning where the brain and body associate the bed with anything not sleep-related
+
+##### Diet
+
+My second greatest struggle, though I have improved a lot. This will help play into good vibes and feelings internally as well as improved sleep and athletic performance:
+
+- create my own cookbook of simple, healthy, protein-focused meals (that I already make! -- I tend to forget my options)
+- look into Chris Heria's meal prep videos
+- forgive myself on binge days
+- continue eating protein powder and yogurt/smoothie mix
+- focus on eating plenty of healthy food to satiation and not stopping early
+- create daily eating schedule with times, proportions, food options, etc.
+
+##### Affirmations
+
+- "I love you"-mirror exercises 3x/ea morning
+- _No More Mr. Nice Guy_'s list of affirmations on the fridge
+
+##### Guitar
+
+- pick up the guitar everyday
+- follow guitar lessons practice tasks
+- finger dexterity
+
+##### Journaling
+
+- Continue enjoying the process of writing: notebook, HP journal, forum, Google Keep notes
+
+##### Exercise
+
+- I have a set schedule, but I also do more than I am scheduled for... makes me feel like a boss
+- Hold a handstand for 10+ seconds without a support or moving around
+- Be able to run 6 miles without stopping
+
+##### Photography
+
+- Create my own instructions for camera settings... these are pretty overwhelming
+- Take 1 picture/day
+- Aim to get some good "professional" shots of myself and activities
+
+##### Moderation of substances
+
+- Limiting going out or staying out late will mitigate most of this
+
+---
+
+## Have more meaningful sexual, romantic, and intimate experiences
+
+- continue dressing stylish, tattoos/piercings, tanning, being well-groomed, and smelling good
+- being open, honest, emotional, and sexual -- BUT not being devastated from a rejection
+- keep slimming down... life starts at 12% and remember my face is usually +2% bodyfat than my average
+- deepening connections with compatible lovers -- I personally prefer more intimate (deeper) connections; the trust and connection/bond is much more enjoyable than novelty for me generally
+
+### Relationship Needs
+
+These needs are listed for specificity and clarity and are desired to be shown to a reasonable extent. Demonstrating these over the period of a day or week would be appreciated so long as schedules, commitments, and life allow.
+
+These needs have been written with a “me-first” focus and are not written in relation or retribution to anyone else intentionally.
+
+* Physical presence
+  * I want a relationship based in the physical realm
+  * I want a partner that is present in the physical realm as much as reasonably possible
+  * I do not want a long-distance relationship
+  * I do not want a relationship where I feel like I must compete with screens
+* Physical touch
+  * Public Displays of Affection
+* Quality time
+  * Emotional presence
+  * Fun activities
+  * Chores or life maintenance
+* I want my feelings to be factored into major life decisions, even if the decision does not directly involve me
+* Trusting me enough to keep me involved first on big life decisions, even if they are difficult or could cause emotional upset
+* I deserve to advocate for myself and ensure that the relationship provides me what I am looking for in life
+  * If it does not, then I owe it to myself to communicate clearly and in the event of the relationship is not resolvable, to end the relationship
+* Happiness, Contentment, Safety, and Security
+  * I do not expect a relationship to always be easy or positive, but I do not want a relationship that provides a burden or that does not make happy
+
+### References
+
+* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages
+  * https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quality_time
+  * https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_intimacy
diff --git a/_pages/open-man.md b/_pages/open-man.md
@@ -0,0 +1,44 @@
+---
+---
+
+**NOTE: this article was written a while ago and does not match my recent tone well, though I have left it largely unedited**
+
+# The Open Man: A Treatise of **MY** Masculinity
+
+# Bottom-Line:
+To be masculine is to take _action_ and vice-versa, action is masculine.
+There are no other requirements for masculinity.
+Shortcomings in traditional [though faux] areas of masculinity (e.g. height, strength, aggressiveness, confidence, emotional control, etc.) can be compensated or eliminated via action. Action makes the man. Although those previous examples could help with masculinity, alone they cannot define it. Also, those examples could very well lead to negative (or positive) consequences. Masculinity itself is neutral, but I believe should be used for positivity.
+
+Action creates practice and mistakes from which gives experience. Experience is how competence and confidence can be achieved.
+
+# Vision:
+As I stated earlier, masculinity [for me] is to take action (and all else is optional though helpful) while being a man has a more concrete meaning. For the purpose of this writing, being a man or being masculine are similar enough to be assumed equivalent. However more concretely, [to me] a man is an adult male who expresses masculinity (and hence action).
+
+I want to open-source my ideas for being a man. This serves a few purposes:
+- being open, honest, and vulnerable while working through my ideas and the fear of sharing them
+- giving any other person an example (not a philosophy) of how a man can be [while tailoring the example to himself, which is necessary]
+- provide a means to backup and write down my ideas in a concrete manner
+- serve as a journaling and contemplative process to work through my imperfect or wrong ideas
+
+# Background
+
+I grew up in a traditional, semi-religious, modest, and old-school part of the Southern United States with old parents (when I was born, my dad was 57 years old and  my mom was 36 years old). I also grew up with a very negative example of masculinity in the form of my dad. He was and still is inactive, angry, emotionally unstable, and lazy while also taking no responsibility for himself. Often times, my mom served a better masculine example than my dad, but she alone could not set a full masculine example for me. Through all this, I was embarrassed and ashamed of being a boy (later man), male, small, weak, nerdy, young, later [hair] bald, and more for almost 30 years of my life. This caused me to act and behave in very unmasculine ways. I was afraid of women, I believed in absolute equality of the sexes (to my detriment), and I was mostly passive in my life outside of academic pursuits.
+
+As of the time of this writing (in my late twenties), I have shifted my viewpoints greatly since my adolescence. I am working to no longer view women as scary, intimidating, bad, or anything else negative. On the other hand, I do not view myself as submissive to another woman (as well as most men). I do not think men **should always** be masculine or dominant, but for myself and in general, I believe that should be the case. Men **should** be worthy of that burden however. That burden should not be used as a means to take advantage, manipulate, hurt, or harm others in any way outside of direct self-defense. Without specifying in great detail here, positive and negative examples could easily be thought of on behalf of the reader. I no longer view equality and egalitarianism as a perfect good. I believe that women should have mostly equal treatment under the law and society (as opposed to being property as was roughly the case a century ago), but this generally does not change the man-woman dynamic where the man should be masculine. Passive and submissive men do not benefit from taking an overly egalitarian approach, and most seem to end up unhappy losers -- most but obviously not all.
+
+# Values
+
+Values can be eternally shifting and changing. Values might not always be universal. But for my own life, I want to commit to the following values. Note that the values need not be absolute. Example: there will be moments of dishonesty and passivity... giving forgiveness to oneself, first and foremost, is key. I will make mistakes, I need to recognize them, and I will not beat myself up over them.
+
+## Positive (things to aspire to)
+- assertiveness
+- openness
+- honesty
+- action (masculinity)
+
+## Negative (things to avoid)
+- submissiveness
+- closedness
+- dishonesty
+- passiveness
diff --git a/_pages/relationship-notes.md b/_pages/relationship-notes.md
@@ -0,0 +1,87 @@
+---
+---
+
+**NOTE: the following are a collection of notes from couple's therapy that I attended over 6 months**
+
+Resentment and Feedback
+- Check in before giving feedback and initiating conflict discussion: "Can we talk about something?"
+- Be gentle in addressing defensiveness. Focus on one's own feelings: "I feel tense now. Is something going on?"
+  - Softening start-up: "Overall, you have been great at ____ lately, and … <TOPIC>"
+- Seek to understand; multiple things can be true at once
+- Difference between: endorsement (agreement/support of behavior) and validation (paraphrase to understand but not necessarily condone)
+- When receiving feedback, validate (paraphrase) without qualification: "...but I did not mean it that way"
+- Intent AND Impact: avoid defensiveness
+- Unprocessed pain and concern builds resentment -- process (communicate) these feelings as soon as possible (does not have to be immediate, but that is ideal)
+- Is this about me or my lover?
+
+---
+
+My Relationship Needs:
+- someone who supports me (allows me my freedom) and can also tell me when I am wrong
+- physical companionship
+- someone who is not a victim in her life story
+- someone who is not ashamed of me
+- someone who gives me the benefit of the doubt, allows me to make my own mistakes and be human, and gives me grace to admit those mistakes
+- someone who has a life-long commitment to growth
+- someone who cultivates a level of relationship stability
+
+---
+
+Empathizing:
+- dang that sucks
+- educated guess... "Do feel this...?"
+- reflect/mirror their words
+
+---
+
+* communicate before taking drastic action
+* try not to catastrophize
+* frame (warm) serious conversations beforehand
+* ask open-ended questions without an end-goal
+* rephrase loaded questions
+
+---
+
+her needs:
+- ask about each other
+- curiosities
+- make observations
+- challenge assumptions
+- priorities
+- what should I ask more about?
+
+---
+
+- give a charitable interpretation when assuming but ask for clarification to avoid assuming
+
+---
+
+* 1 emotional topic per conversation
+* i am flooded
+* what are the needs for supportiveness and security
+
+---
+
+* shared meaning and values:
+  * boundaries ; explicit (written) and communicated
+  * roles (masculine & feminine)
+  * values
+* weekly relationship check-up
+  * nature
+  * how are we doing?
+  * anything that upset us over the week?
+  * temperature check (mood/emotions/thoughts)
+
+---
+
+* Are you venting or looking for advice?
+  * venting: just listen
+  * advice: give solutions
+
+---
+
+Big Yikes:
+* telling me not to be so emotional when listening to someone else's talk or feelings (denying my own emotions?)
+* objective reality does not exist (or is it just unobservable? <-- I do not believe in subjective reality)
+* protecting the other's feelings -- be respectful but honesty/openness is better
+  * otherwise, it is dishonest to not communicate my feelings